Yesterday, I posted that we would be chatting on the Big Red Sofa today and asked what you guys might want to chat about. My friend, Mary Geisen, suggested being patient in times of waiting.

Ha ha ha ha!! Mary, have you forgotten who you are talking to? 🙂 I am not at all qualified to talk about patience…especially in the waiting. When I am waiting, I am not happy about it. In fact, I’ve been known to whine and moan…complain and cry…and wish every wish I could wish that things were different.

Not that any of that has ever gotten me anywhere. I was anxious to marry and made a poor choice that had far-reaching consequences. I wanted creature comforts and made poor financial decisions. There’s probably definitely many other examples as well.

But, even though I’m not particularly fond of opportunities to grow…and haven’t always taken hold of those opportunities…here is the most important lesson I’ve learned on this journey to patience. I have realized that all the gyrations I sometimes go through to bypass the waiting process do not help the situation. And I daresay, in some circumstances, may have prolonged the whole ordeal.

Because the truth is that I can’t control  life’s circumstances most of the time. The only thing I can control is how I respond. When I get all tangled in knots over waiting, I’m the only one upset. When I take things into my own hands to try to bypass the waiting, I usually make it worse. And ultimately time passes as it will. Nothing I do will change that.

So, what can I say to Mary and others who are struggling in the waiting?

First, I understand. It’s not a fun place to be. My understanding doesn’t help your waiting, at least you know you are not alone.

Secondly, I’m reminded about how long Jesus waited. He was 30 years old before He began His ministry. Thirty years before He could truly proclaim who He was and do what He came here to do.  So more than my understanding, He understands.

And finally, God understands too. He has waited since the beginning of time for His people to be truly committed to Him. To love others enough to share the gospel with them. To be able to send Jesus again to bring us all home. As we wait, so does He.

So I don’t know if all that helps or not. Sometimes it’s just good to talk it out. And I suspect you may have to remind me of my own words sometime too. I’m not ready to count it all pure joy yet. We can keep working on it together.

What would you add to the conversation?


Thanks for creating community here with us! The Big Red Sofa Series is about the things I see in life that make me go hmmmm. What God teaches me in scripture. The ordinary things that God can use to drive home spiritual lessons. The questions I sometimes ask. The stories we can all share. So pull up a cushion and join me on the sofa. I’d love to hear from you!

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