Sittin’ on the Sofa

Monday mornings are my favorite as we sit and chat on the Big Red Sofa! It’s a rainy kind of morning where I live, and those are the mornings I don’t want to get off the sofa either! 🙂

Today we’re talking about self-care. We talk about it all the time where I work. It’s part of the Sanctuary model of care that we follow. Self-care is exactly what it says it is…taking care of yourself so that you are able to take care of others. We encourage our employees to have a self-care plan and to practice it regularly.

For instance, my self-care plan includes having my nails done regularly. It’s a time to just get away from the office, take a deep breath, and let someone else do something for me for an hour. Some people exercise, or do a Bible study, or participate in a sport or a hobby as part of their self-care plans. We take it so seriously that if our self-care takes up some time “on the clock,” that’s no problem. We want our employees to be healthy!

The Difficulty in Self-Care

The difficulty for me has been actually letting that attitude spill over in to the rest of my life. It’s possible…even important and necessary…to practice self-care in all parts of my life. Not just at work. And lately I haven’t done a good job of that.

My weight loss journey has been documented a lot here. some days and weeks and months, things progress smoothly. I make good choices, I sleep well, I feel good! Other times, everything screeches to a  halt and I’m grateful if I am able to maintain without seeing the scale go up. That’s where I’ve been lately…and frankly I’m not even sure I’m maintaining very well! With stress at work, holiday eating, and still recovering from being sick, I’ve started to feel like @#$%&!!

That’s when it finally dawned on me. It seems like something I should have thought of before…something I should have connected in my head and my heart. Better late than never, I suppose! This weekend, I realized continuing this journey of taking better care of myself needs to be an official part of my self-care plan. Seems like a no-brainer, huh? But I just hadn’t put the two together.

Making the Connection

I’m not sure why it took so long to make this connection for me. Part of this journey has always been mental and emotional…it takes a lot of energy in both areas for me to concentrate on taking care of myself. But I’m such a rules girl that by saying part of my self-care plan is to make better food choices, or exercise rather than napping, or setting boundaries around my time, becomes much easier for me. Am I tempted to eat that cookie? Well, my self-care plan says I will choose not to in order to take care of myself.

So my daughter and I are making plans for better choices over Christmas…careful menu planning, snack choices, and time set aside for exercise. We will go through this holiday without feeling and acting like slugs! 🙂 Since we are both on the downhill slope of our health goals, it’s great to be able to work together and encourage one another.

And just this change in my mindset has already helped me move forward. Making healthy choices seems much easier through the lens of my own self-care. Because it really isn’t about a diet or a workout…it’s really all about how I choose to live my life.

I’m interested to know what your self-care practices are. And if you have any hints for making this a healthy holiday, share away! We could probably all use a little help with that!




Thanks for creating community here with us! The Big Red Sofa Series is about the things I see in life that make me go hmmmm. What God teaches me in scripture. The ordinary things that God can use to drive home spiritual lessons. The questions I sometimes ask. The stories we can all share. So pull up a cushion and join me on the sofa. I’d love to hear from you!

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